Olympics Oddities and Vampire STDs

Have you ever wondered why the Olympics and presidential elections always seem to come at the same time? Or perhaps you've struggled with maintaining perspective while navigating personal habits? Join us on Oversharing with Overbys, where we kick things off with a light-hearted conversation about Matt's messy bun experiment and a new energy drink that left us feeling less than energized. Matt also shares his solo parenting triumphs while Jo was out in Nashville, and Jo reflects on the unexpected inspiration she shared while on her trip.

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Transcript

Oversharing With Overbees

Speaker 1 0:00

Welcome to Oversharing with Overbees. I'm Jo. And I'm Matt, and each week you can tune in to hear us respond to your voicemails, go in-depth on our lives as content creators and hopefully leave you feeling even better than we found you.

Speaker 2 0:10

With that being said, let's get to Oversharing.

Speaker 1 0:14

Excuse me, you look like you love me. I've said that. How many times do you think? Just like ballpark 100 in the last 24 hours 200.

Speaker 2 0:27

I yeah, I'd say that that's safe.

Speaker 1 0:29

It's way too many five times an hour every hour, so catchy yeah I don't understand what's going on with your hair today.

Speaker 2 0:37

I don't either. I looked at it in the camera and I was like what?

Speaker 1 0:41

it is. It's like a dream messy bun for a girly, but I don't know that it's a dream messy bun for you.

Speaker 2 0:47

It's a little too messy, a little too long.

Speaker 1 0:49

I don't know that men pull off the messy bun the same way women do you know, that's the only trick in my bag, so let's be gentle here. No, no no, no, no. What you do isn't a messy bun.

Speaker 2 0:58

No, that's true neat bun. A neat bun.

Speaker 1 1:02

Right now you're rocking a messy bun.

Speaker 2 1:05

Okay.

Speaker 1 1:06

Just because you have curly hair doesn't make the bun automatically messy.

Speaker 2 1:10

I feel like I'm doing a splash of messy.

Speaker 1 1:12

Okay, well, maybe you do pull it off then.

Speaker 2 1:14

I don't know. I mean, I don't know that.

Speaker 1 1:15

I'm Okay, hold on, hold on, hold on. I have a different kind of can today.

Speaker 2 1:18

Oh, I don't trust it as much. It doesn't feel like it has the resonance.

Speaker 1 1:22

It's the Celsius. Okay, are you ready?

Speaker 2 1:31

Felt muted.

Speaker 1 1:33

Yeah, it definitely didn't feel as good that black Celsius top just seems like it. It's taking all of the. It didn't have the same pop. It definitely didn't have like a. Yeah, you know.

Speaker 2 1:43

Yeah, ugh the flavor is subpar.

Speaker 1 1:46

I definitely didn't have like a. You know, yeah, ugh, the flavor is subpar. You picked it. I know I'm not a Celsius girl.

Speaker 2 1:53

Yeah.

Speaker 1 1:54

I don't know. There's something about it Like the aftertaste of it just isn't for me.

Speaker 2 1:59

Yeah.

Speaker 1 1:59

But they were out of the Elanis I liked at the store. I keep looking in the camera and my hair is so shiny.

Speaker 2 2:06

Well, that's cool it does look really healthy yeah, it's just coated in oil is it really I? Mean kind of it looks great.

Speaker 1 2:13

Yeah, your curls look good. Uh, I told g this week that she's probably gonna have hair like her daddy. Oh yeah, and she was not pleased with me.

Speaker 2 2:21

No, she wants light hair, which, if it's like her dad, she's in for a rude awakening here in about five years.

Speaker 1 2:27

Well, and it was crazy to me because literally I'm so sorry for her Cause I literally prayed for her to have your hair.

Speaker 2 2:35

All you want is light hair.

Speaker 1 2:36

Like I, definitely like. I met a crossroads demon. I asked for her to give G that hair and now she's going to resent me forever. You're really struggling with this? Huh, I can't. I am Well, update us what's going on, what's your week been like?

Speaker 2 2:53

What has my week been like? That's a great question that I should have prepared more, for. It seems like I could have predicted it was coming.

Speaker 1 3:00

I was in Nashville.

Speaker 2 3:02

Oh yeah. You solo parented the house down yep father of two you fixed the subi subi oh yeah, yeah, I did fix the car one car family for about 10 months it's been that long.

Speaker 1 3:16

I thought it was like six uh no, we've never had it operational while chloe has worked for us and she started in september of 2022 now we were sneaking up on a year 2023 not 2022 yeah, I changed all the oils, all the all the oils, really pretty much so we're back to a two vehicle family and matt's never gonna let it go that long, ever again no, no that was crazy. What's?

Speaker 2 3:40

really sad is I've had most of the supplies for it for six months at least.

Speaker 1 3:44

I didn't know what was going on, but I didn't feel like pushing it.

Speaker 2 3:48

No, no. But then you left and I was like I'm going to need a car.

Speaker 1 3:54

I finally left him that there was no figuring it out.

Speaker 2 3:57

That doesn't even make sense, cause you've left before. But oh, you drove, that's why you didn't fly, so I didn't like drop you off at the airport and have a car right that's what it was. You finally, finally left, but somewhere close enough to drive yep how's your speeches?

Speaker 1 4:12

I was a, I was like on a q a like it wasn't a speech it was more of, but it wasn't really a panel either, because when I think of panel I think of multiple people. So the way it was arranged, they had five content creators there and we all, one by one, went up and she did like a Q and a sit down talk with us.

Speaker 2 4:27

Okay, so not really a speech. Everybody really latched onto that.

Speaker 1 4:31

I was talking about, uh, my dancing videos. I said it's not about uh, it's not always about being good, it's about being passionate and people really uh caught onto that. And I was like oh, I did not mean that inspirationally.

Speaker 2 4:47

I mean, that's a nice inspirational phrase, I guess yeah. Well, it's better to be accidentally inspirational than like.

Speaker 1 4:54

You're right, you're not.

Speaker 2 4:55

Actively, just not.

Speaker 1 4:57

I don't know how I did.

Speaker 2 4:58

Don't take inspiration from this.

Speaker 1 5:00

I had fun. It was a nice time.

Speaker 2 5:01

Yeah.

Speaker 1 5:02

Got to meet some people. Hopefully I helped someone.

Speaker 2 5:05

Someone somewhere.

Speaker 1 5:06

Yeah.

Speaker 2 5:07

Probably.

Speaker 1 5:08

Nashville's cool. I'd like to visit and actually like go and see more things sometime. Yeah, you did like 36 hours in Nashville. Yeah, it was a quick. I don't even think it was that long, no, less than that.

Speaker 2 5:20

It wasn't even 24 hours.

Speaker 1 5:20

I got in at 11 PM and I and I left at 5 pm the next day.

Speaker 2 5:23

I was imagining you got there at 11 am and that was not the right way to do that. The Four Seasons was fancy. It is a fancy hotel.

Speaker 1 5:32

I have now. I've never stayed at fancy hotels in my life, and this year I've stayed at two Four Seasons.

Speaker 2 5:37

Yes.

Speaker 1 5:37

And I feel inadequate to be. I'm much more like a Holiday Inn Express girly, I think, yeah.

Speaker 2 5:44

No.

Speaker 1 5:44

I'm much more like a Holiday Inn Express girly. I think, yeah, no, I mean, the hotel was really really nice.

Speaker 2 5:47

You just didn't feel at home there.

Speaker 1 5:49

No, I was like this is imposter syndrome to the max. I do not belong here.

Speaker 2 5:52

I'm like these people know. They know I shouldn't be here.

Speaker 1 5:55

Exactly.

Speaker 2 5:56

Checked in. They're like why who no?

Speaker 1 5:59

they were so nice. And the space was so stunning and comfortable and I had a nice night away by myself. You'd think I'd sleep through the night. I didn't. No that's me. Yeah, I'm not good when I'm I don't sleep as well away from my home.

Speaker 2 6:18

I don't know what that is. I love just a night.

Speaker 1 6:25

I sleep okay when you're not home and we're in my home. Like it's about. It's not about. It's about being in my house.

Speaker 2 6:30

You want to be in your house? Yeah, you don't like being in a strange place yes, Fair enough, especially by myself. Fair enough. You know, yeah, that's just my male privilege being like that'd be great, it's fine.

Speaker 1 6:43

It's fine. So I am getting a little more anxious, like into my like. The older I've gotten, I think I'm just a little more aware yeah, but more to lose more to lose. I don't know, anyway, what else this weekend, any class?

Speaker 2 6:57

oh man, what did we, I, I? Why do I never remember what we do?

Speaker 1 7:01

because you don't use your brain very well oh like you don't work out your brain like I, I've been journaling and I like oh, you have, yeah, and I I do a lot of things I document stories, and so I think I remember better because, but, like you, don't really because you're documenting yeah, you're not really participating wow ouch in the documenting, not in the. Yeah, yeah, I was gonna say I'm still here to clarify I go catatonic for 24 to 48 hours.

Speaker 2 7:32

We went, we went to the park, we skateboarded oh yeah, and she wanted to skateboard and she did that for about 100 feet and then we, we put it back away and we did the park, which is why we went to the park, because it was like skateboarding is not going to do it for a while.

Speaker 1 7:51

Oh, I worked at the farmer's market.

Speaker 2 7:53

Oh yeah, you did some farmer's marketing.

Speaker 1 7:56

That was good. I loved that honestly.

Speaker 2 7:59

Really.

Speaker 1 7:59

Like I yeah.

Speaker 2 8:02

It was like the hottest day of the year.

Speaker 1 8:03

I love people. I just love meeting people and talking to them.

Speaker 2 8:09

Well, that is a place to do that.

Speaker 1 8:11

I don't necessarily want to be like a salesperson because I don't really want to always be selling, yeah. But doing it for Foy was cool because it was really fun to get to talk about all the things Caroline's doing and how cool she is, yeah, her why, and like like that was really fun.

Speaker 2 8:25

You could do it on behalf of somebody, yeah, which is nice.

Speaker 1 8:28

I think I could work like a market or something like that, where people are coming to buy.

Speaker 2 8:33

Periodically. Yeah, that is. There's a big difference between like cold calling sales and like informed sales. It's nice to know if somebody needs your product or is interested in your product. You don't have to force that.

Speaker 1 8:45

I think I would be really good at sales. If, I mean, I think this is probably for a lot of people. I think some people aren't good at sales at all, though, but if it's a product I believe in, I think that I could.

Speaker 2 8:56

That does help.

Speaker 3 8:59

I think, really just the opposite is hard, it's a product you don't believe in and you have to try and sell it like that's hard yeah it is.

Speaker 2 9:07

It definitely exists. I hate that. Yeah and uh, getting ready for a birthday this weekend birthday party yeah, I'm excited have a whole birthday party set up.

Speaker 1 9:19

We have like 20 kids coming over. Yeah, it's gonna be really fun. We.

Speaker 2 9:24

We're just going to hope. You know they all get along.

Speaker 1 9:27

They will.

Speaker 2 9:27

They don't fight each other with the wands. No, it'll be great, okay.

Speaker 1 9:31

It'll be fun. So I know exactly where I want to start this week.

Speaker 2 9:35

Okay.

Speaker 1 9:36

And that is a TikTok that JC sent me and it was one of those sounds where it's like gentlemen, start your like. You know, he's like talking to her or whatever. And it had text over it that said Americans getting ready for the Summer Olympics while also getting ready for election year, like at the same time.

Speaker 2 10:01

And it was the first time that I realized that the olympics, like the summer olympics, and the election coincide every single time yeah, now to be fair, different parts of the year, but not not the campaigning, but like the actual election, well, it's in the summer or no? The olympics are in the summer right, right.

Speaker 1 10:22

The Olympics are in September.

Speaker 2 10:27

Oh, and the election's in.

Speaker 1 10:28

November, because trials and everything are going on right now, oh yeah. And then the actual Olympics take part in late August, early September.

Speaker 2 10:36

Well, I mean, they're named two further months away than September and November.

Speaker 1 10:42

That's why I'm looking at you like what are you talking about? No, you're totally right?

Olympics, Cult Doc, FBI Interview

Speaker 2 10:47

Yeah, I hadn't thought about that. And if they start in September, they run probably, if not, all the way to October. It's only two weeks.

Speaker 1 10:52

It's two weeks. Every time I don't know how long the Olympics is. I don't understand how you don't know anything about the Olympics.

Speaker 2 10:57

I don't know man, it's two weeks right.

Speaker 1 10:59

It's just kind of on until it's not Two weeks, right, it's just kind of on until it's not. That's how I feel, no now I have to look it up, but I'm almost positive that it's always exactly two weeks.

Speaker 2 11:08

That sounds really right. You said it with the confidence of somebody. That was definitely right.

Speaker 1 11:15

Yeah, Friday July 26th to Sunday August 11th, so it's a little over two weeks.

Speaker 2 11:21

That's yeah. Also that's July, so it's a little over two weeks that's yeah.

Speaker 1 11:25

Also, that's july earlier than I thought I thought it was september yeah but still still not that far, I still stand by my point yeah I was thinking. You know why I was thinking september is because I'm basing all of my knowledge off of talking to anna I was thinking of Paris Fashion Week.

Speaker 3 11:46

Same difference.

Speaker 1 11:47

Well, because it's all in Paris this year. That's why, and that's in September, yeah, but regardless. Fair enough the only point I was making is I did not realize or recognize that we're doing the Olympics the same year that we do the presidential election.

Speaker 2 12:02

Yeah, yep, that we do the presidential election?

Speaker 1 12:04

Yeah, yep, and that means that every time it's an election year, there is an Olympics, because, even like the two-year run in line with the Winter Olympics- yeah.

Speaker 2 12:17

Yeah, we got a little off track with COVID, but then we're back on.

Speaker 1 12:22

I kind of wish we would have stayed off track.

Speaker 2 12:24

So we could just like have one thing, you know, oh, yeah, too much freedom.

Speaker 1 12:26

I feel overstimulated.

Speaker 2 12:29

I think that's just our elections. I think those are just generally overstimulating, I don't feel like, and tiring.

Speaker 1 12:34

Did it used to be like that? Like, I don't remember. I remember out of high school being so excited to vote.

Speaker 2 12:44

I don't remember it being so stressful. Well, I think in high school we weren't maybe taking in quite so much content.

Speaker 1 12:49

Yeah.

Speaker 2 12:50

We weren't watching much news.

Speaker 1 12:53

That was all that was on at my house.

Speaker 2 12:56

There wasn't much on at my house.

Speaker 1 12:58

You didn't have a TV Matt.

Speaker 2 12:59

Well, we had a TV.

Speaker 1 13:01

Uh-huh when.

Speaker 2 13:02

It was in the basement.

Speaker 1 13:04

Uh-huh when.

Speaker 2 13:06

In a TV. Uh-huh when it was in the basement.

Speaker 1 13:08

Uh-huh, where In a cabinet yeah?

Speaker 2 13:10

We didn't. We weren't watching news on it, though that's for sure that sounded weird. Did you have a?

Speaker 1 13:15

TV when you were little.

Speaker 2 13:17

How little.

Speaker 1 13:19

When did you get your TV? I don't remember.

Speaker 2 13:21

Probably seven to eight-ish. It was tiny, my parents had it. That's crazy Speaking of other things we did since we recorded last.

Speaker 1 13:34

Yeah, I'm leaving that up to you.

Speaker 2 13:35

Leave that up to me. Uh-huh, the religion I grew up in has a Hulu documentary made about it. Mm-hmm, yep, that was exciting. Unexpected. Has a Hulu documentary made about it. Yep, that was exciting Unexpected. Didn't know that was in the works.

Speaker 1 13:50

We told the story about you finding out, though, because that's actually kind of funny.

Speaker 2 13:54

Yeah, I was going somewhere that night but I'd popped on Hulu before I left and it came up to the top. I watch a lot of docs and stuff and it was just like bang.

Speaker 1 14:05

Right there.

Speaker 2 14:07

Hulu, you know ABC and Impact Tonight or whatever it is, presents Secrets of the 2x2 Church. It was like boom right up there. I was like whoa, that's confusing. Then I was like, hey, we probably have to watch this soon I wasn't home no, so I sent you a picture, I think I sent you a screenshot. I think I pulled it up in the app.

Speaker 1 14:31

But yeah, yeah, crazy stuff and then you went to your guy's night.

Speaker 2 14:38

Yeah, that's the part I thought was funny then just kept yeah, I've been casually dropping that, dropping that. My cult that I grew up in has a documentary about it. It's really a conversation starter. I will say People are like wait, what You're just going to say that like it's a normal sentence and I was like yep, then I explain.

Speaker 1 15:03

But yeah, but didn't it show up on the TV?

Speaker 2 15:07

Yeah, yeah I just pulled up Hulu and it was like no at the event that night?

Speaker 1 15:12

Oh, yeah, cause it was airing on ABC.

Speaker 2 15:13

That's what I was trying to. Oh, okay, okay, okay, okay, cause that's the part that I thought was so crazy.

Speaker 1 15:18

Oh yeah, chances of.

Speaker 2 15:19

Because it was the week it came out. Yeah, I think it'd come out like that day.

Speaker 3 15:23

So you were, with all your friends.

Speaker 2 15:25

Yeah, yeah. So I was with all my friends and it was getting to the end of the night anyway and it popped on. I was like, oh, I was going to watch this with my wife. I better go home, because that's my call, doc, and I don't want to get too far ahead. So I did I came home, watched, Watched it. You fell asleep, yeah.

Speaker 3 15:41

I fell asleep, had to re-watch it again the next day.

Speaker 2 15:42

Yeah, but exciting stuff.

Speaker 1 15:46

I thought it did a good job. Yeah, it was interesting.

Speaker 2 15:50

Yeah, I mean it was I don't know. It's kind of what you expect to see out of those kind of documentaries.

Speaker 1 16:00

It's not a good situation sometimes.

Speaker 2 16:01

Matt's favorite's the FBI, the FBI. They did a great interview with the FBI where the FBI is like she would ask long, detailed questions, like you know, we have information about this, this and this and this, and then he's like here at the FBI, we investigate crimes. If you know about a crime, call the FBI. She's like well, have you ever seen anything like this? He's like what I can tell you is here at the FBI. If you have any information, let us know, we investigate crimes here. You're like yeah, yeah, you should probably end this interview now, because I don't think he's really going to say anything other than that.

Speaker 1 16:35

He did a really good job, he did he was very professional, but he's like we're actively investigating these crimes.

Speaker 2 16:40

This is like a thing and like I can't do that, so I'm just going to, like, give you my spiel about not being able to tell you details about crimes. Yeah, you're supposed to tell us details about crimes.

Speaker 1 16:51

If anybody's watching has details about crimes, which is 100% why he was on.

Speaker 2 16:57

He's like, hey, just put the number up and put my face up, and we're going to tell people to call us.

Speaker 1 17:03

I didn't know that the FBI was in Omaha. There's FBI offices all over, yeah no, I know, but like I didn't realize they had like a big office in Omaha.

Speaker 2 17:11

I mean, you got to put it somewhere.

Speaker 1 17:13

Yeah, I think there's a lot of stuff in Omaha yeah.

Speaker 2 17:15

Omaha is real like pretty big. Yeah, there's a lot of stuff. That was just weird too.

Speaker 1 17:29

Cause I was like yeah, you got lots of family in Omaha. I do, but Omaha, nebraska, oh no, nope, don't do that. Don't do that. You come from anywhere, you come from they recognize that song.

Speaker 2 17:35

It's not worth looking up, but you can if you want.

Speaker 1 17:38

I break into it periodically yeah pretty much anytime we talk about Omaha which is too often.

Speaker 2 17:44

Too often, yeah, I forgot that happened. So if you're looking for a new cult documentary, check out the one that I grew up in. There's your plug.

Speaker 1 17:58

It was interesting, it really was, and I feel like it was kind of jarring for you.

Speaker 2 18:04

Mainly just to see it on TV, not really like the information in it. Basically, you know people in positions of power abuse power and so, yeah, you need to be careful who you trust, just in life.

Speaker 1 18:19

All the time, fair enough I think that's not unreasonable. Okay, well, on that note, every week we do a segment called Greg's reads of the week.

Speaker 1 18:28

Greg is my father, Greg reads lots of news, he reads lots of articles. He's out there, he's taking it in and he's making sure that we don't have to go through all of it by sharing it with us. And uh, we read three of the article headlines and we rate them on a scale of zero to five. Sometimes one to five depends on how I'm feeling when I talk about it, about how much anxiety the headline gave us when we read it.

Speaker 2 18:53

Yeah, Number one feeling exhausted. Here's how to fight the weariness.

Speaker 1 19:02

Two out of five.

Speaker 2 19:03

I was going to give it a three out of five.

Speaker 1 19:04

Oh really, Sometimes I feel exhausted and maybe I'm not doing the right thing to fight it oh well, at least the information's been provided for you think it's boatloads of caffeine and not sleeping enough.

Speaker 2 19:16

Do you think that's the secret? I?

Speaker 1 19:17

thought you thought you were doing something wrong. You think you're doing something right uh, maybe, maybe.

Speaker 2 19:23

If that's what it is, yeah, then I bet it is the article is actually you know what the first headline I'm seeing in here is encourage appreciation. Nope. Perspective is everything. Nope. The gospel of work is not our friend Nope Well, I feel like you're pretty good at that one, but manage your inner critic? I don't think so. Nope, I'd rather not Take up a hobby. You can't make me. Um, how to say no? You also can't make me, but I also might know.

Speaker 1 19:51

Well, I shouldn't say that I think you're pretty good at being avoidant, yeah.

Speaker 2 19:56

Prioritize rest. Don't think so. Anyway, yeah, I'm not doing anything in that list.

Speaker 1 20:01

I've been much better about earlier bedtimes.

Speaker 2 20:03

That's true, true, but an earlier bedtime for us is like, not 1 am, it's 11 pm that's an improvement it is.

Speaker 1 20:11

It's a lot better because even if we get up at six, that's seven hours.

Speaker 2 20:15

That's true. That's solid, that's true. Okay, next article title scientists make breakthrough in recycling old concrete and it could have major implications coming at big leaps to green four out of.

Speaker 1 20:29

Oh okay scientists automatically set me on edge.

Speaker 2 20:32

Oh it was like a one out of five that we needed to recycle concrete oh yeah, we like really need to recycle concrete what like that.

Speaker 1 20:39

I didn't know.

Speaker 2 20:40

It's like the specific sand you need, for it is, like, really limited what people steal it yeah why what? Because you need like very specific sand, that's like not very renewable, to make concrete.

Speaker 1 20:54

Yeah, it's a whole thing we use so much of it yeah, we use tons of it.

Speaker 2 21:00

That's part of the problem also what yes, yeah, fun fact, fun fact I want to know more about that.

Speaker 1 21:08

Where are they getting the sand? Ah, overseas, I think like just out of the ground well, that's where sand is usually, yeah right, I think they might.

Speaker 2 21:19

I don't. I'd have to look into this. I haven't read it in a minute, but yeah, yeah, concrete's a whole thing that we have to like actually. Uh well, now I've read this second this I clicked the article and I opened the sub headline. It says we could dramatically reduce the amount of concrete we use without any reduction in safety, and that actually scares me a little bit more.

Speaker 1 21:40

Your engineering brain's going.

Speaker 2 21:42

No, no, no, no no, no, like well, I don't like the sound of that. But yeah, we have to. Yeah, it's good to be able to recycle concrete because, um, how do you recycle it, though?

Speaker 1 21:53

do they like grind it down?

Speaker 2 21:54

yeah, yeah, you need that special sand back, basically hmm, so they, just like I, have so many questions yeah, honestly, concrete's like actually kind of really complicated Not like actually really complicated, but like the Romans had some special concrete and that's like why their stuff is still sanding, because like a lot of stuff we build out of concrete wouldn't last that long. But it's because they have like some special mixture. I think they've kind of cracked that, but concrete's wild. Man, I love your brain.

Speaker 2 22:29

I it's a blessing and a curse sometimes yeah, okay, another article another article, last article do, do, do do oh, the longest lasting car models 200k plus miles, according to consumer reports when he commented underneath that I'll bet Matt's Camry is still running.

Speaker 1 22:46

We know that Camry life.

Speaker 2 22:48

Yep, I had a 98 Camry that had a banged up door it was going for 300, wasn't? It. Yeah, the bumper was real cracked. It was going for 300K miles. I changed an oxygen sensor in it once and the oil and that's about all I ever did to that car.

Speaker 1 23:04

Matt and I are not car people, Just something to know about us. Have you ever yeah, you have your car before this had less than 100,000 miles?

Speaker 2 23:14

on it. Yeah, I got it at like 75. Put her over 100, I think in the next year 75,000 miles on a car we're like it's brand new, just broke it in.

Speaker 1 23:22

For us, that's brand spanking new. I've never owned a car with less than 100,000 miles on it.

Speaker 2 23:27

No, no, the only new car smell we know is from the dealer.

Speaker 1 23:31

They spray it in there. My cars are always going more for 200.

Speaker 2 23:35

Yeah, right at 100,000, they really start hitting their stride.

Speaker 1 23:39

Yeah.

Speaker 2 23:40

That's a personal preference. It says the guy who needed to change all the fluids in their one car so that he could drive it that car has like what?

Speaker 1 23:48

161, 161, I was gonna say 176, so I was off yeah, and you got it pretty gently used you.

Speaker 2 23:55

You drove that thing hard for years yeah, I did you're doing 30 plus k a year at least.

Speaker 1 24:00

Yeah, it was a lot it's wedding season, man.

Speaker 2 24:05

Yeah, I can put some miles on a car, for sure, you really can.

Speaker 1 24:08

But have you ever owned a new? No, you haven't. I've never owned a new car. I just saw somebody talking about they're like oh man, my car is about to be paid off, but I rented. I just was reminded how nice it is to have a new car and I was like I've never known that feeling.

Speaker 2 24:27

We don't start that way. We never know.

Speaker 1 24:30

I can't, uh, I can't talk myself into it.

Speaker 2 24:35

Knowing the expense.

Speaker 1 24:35

Well, I think it's also I don't take great care of my. I don't take, I wouldn't say I take poor care You're not actively harming it, but no I do regular maintenance like I follow whatever, but like I'm not crazy stressed if it gets scratched or like you know hauling things in it and stuff like that.

Speaker 2 24:54

So I don't think that I'm worthy or deserving of a new car, you know yeah, you're not gonna baby it like 90 000 miles and let me it does feel better if it's already got a few like you know dings in it and you're like, okay, I can drive it. Man, that 98 camry, I had looked like a piece but I I parked it in downtown st louis with no fear at all I loved that car yeah, you could. I mean you could just park it wherever and be like I don't know if you steal it. I think I cut him a money ahead I missed that car.

Speaker 1 25:24

You got rear-ended no big deal.

Speaker 2 25:25

Yep, I did I, you got rear-ended. No big deal. Yep, I did. I did get rear-ended once and was like come on, man.

Speaker 1 25:29

My bumper was. He was like it cracked your bumper. You're like nah.

Speaker 2 25:32

I was like that bumper was already cracked actually, but anyway, I left no harm, no foul.

Speaker 1 25:41

What a time.

Speaker 2 25:42

Yeah.

Speaker 1 25:43

Then you went to go see Blink 182, or was that on the way home, that was after but it was after the Blink-182 show Somebody rear-ended me.

Speaker 2 25:49

I remember just looking in the mirror and being like that person's going too fast, they're going to hit me, and they did. And they did. Just watched it happen.

Speaker 1 25:57

I've been rear-ended so many times and because of that I always think people. When I say that people are like oh, she slams on her brakes, you know.

Speaker 2 26:07

You've been at a dead stop.

Speaker 1 26:08

Every single time.

Speaker 2 26:09

And like people, have been coming for a while.

Speaker 1 26:11

Every single time I have been at a dead stop. Twice, the car behind me has also been at a dead stop, and the car behind them hit them into me.

Speaker 2 26:20

That happens too.

Speaker 1 26:21

I have never rear-ended anybody though, which means I am far enough back. Have never rear-ended anybody, though, which means I am far enough back. I stay back from cars because. I'm always prepared for someone to hit me? Yeah, I've just been hit so many darn.

Speaker 2 26:31

Totally fair, totally fair, yeah. Yeah, somebody tried to break into my Camry once. That was actually kind of annoying because they didn't succeed, but they did really screw up the driver's side door lock. I think they tried to use like a screwdriver to turn it and it meant I couldn't use my key in that door handle anymore.

Speaker 1 26:49

So I had to unlock it from the passenger side. That's a bummer.

Speaker 2 26:54

Oh, good times, Good times. Again I could park it wherever, didn't matter.

Speaker 1 27:00

You want to hit the E? Wait, do you have a word of the week?

Speaker 2 27:02

Word of the week.

Speaker 1 27:03

Word of the week. You want to learn a word of the week. Word of the week. Word of the week. You want to learn a word this week. You take a word, you say it. If I know it, I tell you what I think it means.

Speaker 2 27:17

Familiar with the word remuneration.

Speaker 1 27:19

Hell. No, what was last week's word? Do you remember I?

Speaker 2 27:23

really liked it.

Speaker 1 27:26

No, I don't remember, okay it um, no, I don't remember. Okay, remuneration, remuneration remuneration remuner remuneration remunerate.

Speaker 2 27:37

No, okay, great, I think I'm gonna use this one a lot it's a formal word that refers to an amount of money paid to someone for a service, loss or expense. Fancy, for like paying someone. That's remunerated yeah.

Speaker 1 27:55

They should cancel that word.

Speaker 2 27:57

Well, Joe's out on that.

Speaker 1 27:58

Take it out of the dictionary.

Speaker 2 28:00

Was it flump yeah?

Speaker 1 28:04

I flumped down on the couch.

Speaker 2 28:06

Yeah.

Speaker 1 28:06

I still really like that. That's a good one. It's a flop. Slump, yeah, slump.

Speaker 2 28:07

I flumped down on the couch. Yeah, I still really like that one. That's a good one.

Speaker 1 28:08

It's a flop slump.

Speaker 2 28:10

Yeah, basically To plump down suddenly or heavily, flump, flump, we'll go back. We'll throw it back for that one.

Speaker 1 28:17

I love like saying it, it's just so fun.

Speaker 2 28:20

Yeah, I mean, it sounds how it Fl.

Speaker 1 28:23

I mean, it sounds how it Flum.

Speaker 2 28:25

What is that? Is that an onomatopoeia?

Speaker 1 28:26

No, Onomatopoeia, is that a?

Speaker 2 28:29

word that like sounds I don't remember. We're butchering this, no.

Speaker 1 28:33

I have no idea what that means no. I thought that was a place, honestly, when did you think that was? I don't know. I wasn't too worried about it.

Speaker 2 28:49

Yeah, I was right. It's a type of word or the process of creating a word that phonetically imitates, resembles or suggests the sound it describes.

Speaker 1 28:53

An onomatopoeia.

Speaker 2 28:54

So flump yeah.

Speaker 1 28:57

Onomatopoeia does not.

Gift Ideas and PowerPoint Topics

Speaker 2 28:58

It's not an onomatopoeia Like meow, roar, chirp, flump. I don't know if flump is totally correct, flump, it's got the spirit of it. Yeah, so I think it's a. Maybe there's an even better word for it, but I think it works. Should we see if our text thing worked?

Speaker 1 29:16

Yeah, do you think anybody sent us one?

Speaker 2 29:19

If they didn't know? No, they didn't.

Speaker 1 29:21

It might not be working.

Speaker 2 29:21

We never tested it. We said we could test it, and we never did. Well, we can test it, that's still true, don't worry guys, we can test it. I don't know if we will, but we can.

Speaker 1 29:31

We will hit the voicemails.

Speaker 2 29:33

Voicemail it up.

Speaker 4 29:35

Hi Joe and Matt, this is Nerdy Beth. I've called a couple times previously and today I have two questions for you guys to answer slash discuss the. For you guys to answer slash discuss. So the first question I have is on the more serious side, but I think it's a little fun. I have my first friend friend, so someone I actually know is expecting her first baby later this year with her husband and her sister, who I'm most really good friends with, and their mom are planning a surprise baby shower for her later this summer, and some of my friends in our group, including me, have talked about how we're interested in going in on a gift together that may be a little bit more pricey. So I'm curious what recommendations you guys would have for either my friend herself or for their baby they're expecting.

Speaker 4 30:23

My second question may be a little nerdy of me, but my friends and I also do these fun powerpoint presentation nights occasionally where topics have ranged from why crab or goon is the worst to rating and ranking different perfumes for depending on scent and preferences that kind of jazz. And the topic that I've done is why in the Twilight series Bella should have become a vampire after she and Edward did the fun physical times after their wedding instead of getting pregnant. So I'm curious what your guys' answers are to both of those. Hope you're doing well and, yeah, hope you're having a good start to the summer. Peace and love.

Speaker 1 31:03

Baby gifts. I have a lot of thoughts.

Speaker 2 31:04

Okay.

Speaker 1 31:08

Number one thing I would say is if you are going to go in on a gift together and you want to get her something like kind of bougie Artie Pop, oh, the baby carrier.

Speaker 1 31:17

It's not a need by any means, but it is such a luxury to own, and it's one of those things that when you wear it especially if you're going to baby wear a lot it makes you feel so fancy to own it. That's a gift that I go in often with friends on, because it's just, it's definitely elevated, it's definitely expensive, so it depends how many friends you're going in with, though, but that is something that will last, it's something that she will be able to use for a long time, and it's something that will make a statement. I would also say the baby bjorn bouncer, that's not quite as expensive that's more in like the 200 range.

Speaker 1 32:01

So it kind of depends on how much you want to spend the baby. The um arty pop is more than like 400 yeah, it's, uh it's, it's some real.

Speaker 2 32:12

It's a real chunk of change for a baby carrier wear thing yeah but it is nice yeah, it is very nice. Um yeah, otherwise you go like I think you go real practical. You can go like car seat, you can go like, especially if you know what you're going for registry and yeah, car seat um stroller uh monitor yeah, registry, I guess is probably the the smart way to go.

Speaker 1 32:43

I really like, like if they have a carrier on their registry. I just like I think the already pop is one of those that it provides a practical use while also elevating into something they probably wouldn't ask for because it is more expensive.

Speaker 2 33:00

It's not even close to a need.

Speaker 1 33:02

Yeah.

Speaker 2 33:02

It's very much a splurge.

Speaker 3 33:05

Right.

Speaker 2 33:05

So, yeah, that is that's kind of our gift giving philosophy, is you either go, uh, a splurge item, or you go really practical or both or both is what I was gonna say. It's like finding something that's really practical on the registry and then getting them like a really nice version of that for for people that are hard to buy gifts for that's a lot of times the way to go is get like a very premium staple item but you have to know your friend well.

Speaker 1 33:30

Yeah, because, like my friend brie, my friend jc and I went on the arty pop together for her because we knew she wouldn't put it on her registry but we knew she would like, want and value that, like she, she had a, a more middle tier version and so we, like marked that as purchased on her registry, knowing that she was not going to be disappointed that it wasn't the one Like if I, whereas I have other friends who, like there is a reason they registered for what they registered for that you wouldn't want to do that with. So obviously know your people, but, um, I also think a really cool gift would be subscribing to like a year of chat books.

Speaker 1 34:12

Oh, that could be cool, so that they can have photo albums, or uh subscribing to a toy service like kiwi co. Yeah, or um going in together and uh purchasing or giving them a gift card for a newborn or first like year in the life photo session with a photographer in their area. Like those are all things that people really want to do that doesn't always feel good to spend the money on in the moment, but later, like.

Speaker 2 34:45

Will be appreciated.

Speaker 1 34:45

They'll be really appreciative of and those can range Like that can also be very, very expensive. But those are the other things. Like chat books for a year is probably like $120. Then when you start talking KiwiCo, you're probably looking at more like $400 to $500 for a year. And then when you're talking photos, you're probably looking, if you're covering all the session fees, more like a thousand dollars. Like you know what I mean.

Speaker 1 35:10

So I'm trying to give like a big range of things that you could do, Cause I don't it depends on how many friends you have going into, because sometimes it's two of you and sometimes it's 10 of you, and there are things that you could do for all of that different stuff yeah, but again, registry is a great place to, to touch base with at least yeah, I agree so hopefully that covered that now um what would you give a powerpoint on?

Speaker 2 35:36

what would I? Oh, the question was, the question was not why, oh, I thought, was it not specifically why bella would become a vampire because of sex? She didn't become a vampire, I know, but was she just giving an example of her PowerPoint?

Speaker 1 35:52

I don't know. We can answer both.

Speaker 2 35:53

Okay, what are you going to start with?

Speaker 1 35:57

The Twilight.

Speaker 2 35:58

Okay, like why she should or should not be a vampire after they have sex. I'm assuming it's a tearing transfer of fluid situation that uh she's. She's arguing that she should have become a vampire after they were intimate, and that makes sense to me. I'm on your side. That's how diseases transfer and I'm pretty sure vampirism is considered a disease I mean technically speaking, since it's super real but I feel like all of the books and stuff, they never become vampires from sexual intercourse and I think that, yeah, I think that might be wrong, though you're right, I think that's a real.

Speaker 1 36:35

Maybe they're wearing condoms maybe, but then how did you get pregnant?

Speaker 2 36:39

that don't think about it okay you can't think about it too deeply. What would?

Speaker 1 36:43

your powerpoint be about what?

Speaker 2 36:44

would my powerpoint be? Oh man, that's a great question that I should have prepared for I think my powerpoint would be about the best cinnamon rolls the best cinnamon rolls like locally, regionally, everywhere, everywhere. I've ever had a cinnamon roll.

Speaker 1 36:58

Yeah, what makes a good cinnamon roll where the best cinnamon rolls are locally. Where are cinnamon rolls I would like to try?

Speaker 2 37:05

the greatest cinnamon rolls of your life yeah well, do you give a top five?

Speaker 1 37:10

I really, I ride for a good cinnamon roll, I really do yeah, mark who I work out with is very passionate about cinnamon rolls as well. I think that's like one of my favorite treats man, that's a great question.

Speaker 2 37:21

I feel like there's definitely some things.

Speaker 1 37:22

I could have some great powerpoints or I could definitely do a powerpoint on the fury I fear. I feel um about the mix-up between dragons and wyverns in uh, game of thrones and other dragon centric movies and fantasy shows well, this is an area that your knowledge outstrips mine.

Speaker 2 37:50

Uh, what's the difference?

Speaker 1 37:51

wyverns are when they're you know how like their wings will be connected to their front legs okay you know what I'm talking about kind of that's a wyvern oh, okay and then a dragon has four legs four separate legs and and wings.

Speaker 2 38:05

So like how to train your dragon Like a bird yeah, that has arms, I guess.

Speaker 1 38:09

Like, toothless is a dragon. Got it, but in Game of Thrones, a lot of the dragons are wyvern.

Speaker 2 38:15

They have their wings attached to their arms.

Speaker 3 38:17

Yeah.

Speaker 2 38:18

Had no idea there was a technical difference. Yes, I just thought, like some people call, them something.

Speaker 1 38:31

For some reason, reason that really frustrates me, because it's like, if I know that, you know what I mean, surely somebody who writes fantasy should know that well, but it's not about. It's about how they capture it in a yeah. See, here's the difference, see, that's a wyvern.

Speaker 2 38:38

You see how their, their arms yeah, they really barely have arms those are all the different kinds got it, got it, got it, got it, got it, got it. Whoa, what's the difference in a Drake and a dragon? What that I don't understand.

Speaker 1 38:54

A Drake doesn't have wings.

Speaker 2 38:56

Oh Wow, guys, I think there's a whole knowledge base out here.

Speaker 1 39:00

See its little hands on its wings.

Speaker 2 39:02

No, I know exactly what you're talking about. Huh, you never know.

Speaker 1 39:08

No.

Speaker 2 39:09

What, what, what's something I'm, like, disproportionately passionate about.

Speaker 3 39:12

Um cause.

Speaker 2 39:16

I think that's really the sweet spot for these PowerPoints.

Speaker 1 39:23

I don't know how the dishwasher is loaded.

Speaker 2 39:26

See, the thing is I don't feel like I'm the best at the dishwasher.

Speaker 1 39:28

Laundry.

Speaker 2 39:29

It could help to know some research, though I could do some research and actually get to the bottom of how to load a dishwasher. Chords oh, the importance of not bending your cords.

Speaker 1 39:41

Charging cords.

Speaker 2 39:42

Yeah.

Speaker 1 39:43

Batteries.

Speaker 2 39:45

Yep.

Speaker 1 39:45

Speaker systems.

Speaker 2 39:51

These are all different passions of mine. Yeah, the importance of not bending your cords is definitely I would do a psa powerpoint about this like cords don't last forever and the more you bend them harshly at the ends, the sooner they will break and wear out. And then you're like why is this not charging anymore? And there's like a little dangly wire sticking out of it. It's like because you broke it, because you were mean to it. Be gentle to your cords. They're not built to just like work when you bend them like rope.

Speaker 1 40:17

That's right.

Speaker 2 40:17

Yeah, guys, be nice to your cords.

Speaker 1 40:22

I think that would be good. We should do a PowerPoint night. I think that would be fun. Sure, I've never done that.

Speaker 3 40:28

Hi, Joe and Matt. Just wanted to start by saying I love the pod and I look forward to it every week. My question is my husband and I are looking to move from Ontario to Nova Scotia but with moving, my worry is I will regret it due to missing my family. I know you don't live close to all your family, so how do you stay? Thank you.

Speaker 1 40:48

I've never lived close to family, so I don't know what that's like, but what I will say is, if you regret it, you can move back.

Speaker 2 40:54

Yeah, unless there's some reason you couldn't move back.

Speaker 1 40:58

But I FaceTime. Facetime's great Scheduled time. You still want to schedule time to hang out like you do when you're far away, so FaceTime dates Marco Polo's awesome, if you're not connecting on schedule, that you guys can leave each other little uh voice messages you use that a lot or like video messages, uh, voice memos, I don't know. I I have a lot of long distance friends, um yeah, and I stay connected well with that.

Speaker 2 41:26

Those especially in this phase. Even they don't even have to be that long distance. But if you're both moms and doing different things, like you may not see each other often.

Speaker 1 41:35

So so I would say facetime, marco polo voice memos or move home or if you really hate it, no yeah, I.

Speaker 2 41:49

I think it's good to broaden your horizons and if it's not working out, make a change.

Speaker 1 41:55

I'm big on not feeling obligated by the choices I make, Like if something doesn't work. I am not somebody to feel like I failed. I am. You are, I know you are. I'm bonded and identified by the choices I've made in my life, like Matt will sit in misery, just to not be wrong, whereas I'm like, oh wow, I that didn't feel how I thought it was going to pivot.

Speaker 2 42:23

Yeah, I'll be like, if I work hard enough and long enough, maybe it will change. It won't? It doesn't?

Speaker 1 42:31

It hasn't yet. Do we have any emails?

Speaker 2 42:33

I bet we do.

Speaker 1 42:35

Emails of the week that didn't land.

Speaker 2 42:40

No, it did not. You're the queen of just jamming like 13 syllables into like an eight syllable.

Speaker 1 42:46

I really am. I just like to throw things into a tune, excuse me Emphasis on throw. We got some emails we got emails.

Speaker 3 42:57

That was better.

Speaker 2 42:58

We got some, yeah, that definitely had more of a hmm, like a flow to it.

Speaker 1 43:03

Yeah, okay, open us up. What do you got. What do you got?

Speaker 2 43:06

Hi Joe and Matt. I'm a 22-year-old and I've been with my partner for over two years now. We've got jobs lined up for post-grad and we're in the process of saving up to move into our own place with just the two of us and my sweet dog who, like Joe, I got when I was 21.

Speaker 1 43:18

Heck yeah.

Speaker 2 43:19

She sent us a pic also, aw.

Speaker 1 43:22

Aw, cute, is that nausea.

Speaker 2 43:24

Yeah, Cute. My question is how to approach your partner's family at times in a respectful way that creates open dialogue. My boyfriend is the younger of two sons. His brother is four years old and he and his wife welcomed their first baby this past summer. I don't have a relationship with his brother or sister-in-law and I feel bummed by this. I was especially excited to be close with his sister-in-law as I have sisters, but I'm the oldest, so I was looking forward to having an older sister dynamic for a change.

Speaker 2 43:49

I've personally reached out to them several times throughout the past two years and they've either not responded or have said, brushed me off, which I am doing my best not to take personally, not always successful in this. Their son is approaching a year and my partner and I have gotten to see him a handful of times. I've offered to bring meals, drop off groceries, take their dog for a walk and have been rejected every time. I want to show empathy, compassion and grace as they experience parenthood for the first time, since it's a huge transition, but also I'm hurt by their lack of reciprocation for forming a relationship with me and maintaining a relationship with my partner. He and I have discussed this and he gets so frustrated that he says they're not worth the time or energy. It's caused quite a bit of tension amongst his immediate family.

Speaker 1 44:26

I don't want to overstep, especially since it's not my partner's side, or, since it's my partner's side of the family and not mine. What would y'all do in this scenario? I'm worried an open dialogue would open a can of worms and make a mess of things. There's no open dialogue to have. They're telling you exactly what I'm not, so this is a big thing that I have realized in my adulthood that I really want to teach my kid, and that is like you shouldn't have to convince or teach somebody how to treat you yeah like you might need to give specifics or guidance or talk about like things that you prefer.

Speaker 1 44:57

Sure, but this isn't a matter of like not aligning in how you pour into a relationship. This is a matter of like you are pouring in and they're not. So if they're looking for space, I would give that space.

Speaker 1 45:12

And if you want to continue offering where you can because that's important to you. That's fine. But in my opinion, like from what you've said, you've kind of entered into this having an expectation of what that relationship's going to be and people aren't always available to fulfill the wants and needs that you have. And I definitely have experiences like that where I was really hopeful that I was going to have a different kind of dynamic and relationship, um, but that's just not who those people were or what they're available for at that time and it's not how we mesh and it's not something to have a conversation about. Like you don't need to talk people into or convince people to treat you the way you want to be treated. Like I think sometimes it's just take things how they are and proceed with that knowledge.

Speaker 2 46:02

Yeah, good on you for being 22 and like, really on top of trying to build relationships, that's very mature of you. Yeah, I think the most you do is just say, hey, like I'm trying to build a relationship here. Um, hopefully I'm not overstepping. And if you've already communicated that much, I think I think you just have to kind of let it sit, because you're probably right that an open dialogue isn't going to go where you hope it's going to go, if this is how they handle those kinds of like overtures nobody owes you anything.

Speaker 1 46:36

Like that's a really like um harsh take, but it doesn't mean that I wouldn't want it to be differently, like different than that. I would love for family to operate in the way that I see family in my head, but that's just not always for sure. The case.

Speaker 2 46:54

Yeah, like the only thing is if it's somehow unclear like maybe it's odd that some like to them that someone is reaching out and if you communicate like hey, I'm reaching out because I'd like to build a better relationship and you don't get anything back on that, then it's like okay, I don't know what an open conversation is going to have. That's not communicated that way. And sometimes giving people the space to like see that and think about it can work better anyway.

Speaker 2 47:21

but I agree, sounds like you might just have a bad break. Yeah, which sucks 100 so good luck. Dog's cute. Your dog is very cute. All right, another voice email.

Speaker 2 47:39

Another voice email, a voiceless email. Hi, joe and Matt, love you in the podcast so much. So refreshing to hear a couple like the two of you. I have a delicate question. Please do not feel pressured to answer if it's too much. My husband and I recently went through a miscarriage and I'm seeming to have a really hard time with it. We already have a beautiful two-year-old boy, but I was so thrown off by this happening when it did. I'm finding myself terrified to try again. I know Joe has mentioned she had a chemical pregnancy between our two kids and I was curious how it affected your nerves when you got pregnant again. How did you let go of anxiety of possibly losing a pregnancy while also dealing with the regular anxieties that pregnancy brings? I've been through a lot of hardship in my life, but this, for some reason, is really messing with my coping abilities. Any advice is appreciated.

Speaker 1 48:17

I wish I had better advice. I got pregnant so quickly after and we had so much going on.

Speaker 2 48:23

We had a lot of chaos, we didn't process.

Speaker 1 48:26

We were like there were a million different things going on and I don't think that I really was even present in my own body in that season and I get so sick and I like, yeah, I definitely felt under in our lives in general. I think I experienced a lot of feeling under supported just because, like our family situation isn't necessarily traditional traditional or conducive to like, getting a lot of physical support and so we were moving and I was super sick and like I was just trying to survive.

Speaker 2 49:03

Yeah, that is true.

Speaker 1 49:05

And so I don't. I would not shy away from talking to a therapist, first and foremost, like I would definitely get in to see a therapist, and I would not shy away from talking to your doctor either, but I just don't think I'm the best. I also just don't think I am the most. I don't do a lot of worrying about what, if Not none.

Speaker 2 49:35

Yeah.

Speaker 1 49:35

Not none.

Speaker 2 49:36

Yeah.

Speaker 1 49:36

But I'm really big about really taking life as it is today and not doing the what if game, because I was raised in a family that's very heavy on the what if and very heavy on the trying to solve for any problem that could arise, and it just was really harmful to me because I never really learned to be present the way I wanted. I felt like so many of my decisions were based on future me and then future me never ended up exactly where I tried to prepare for or where my family tried to prepare for, and so then I never really felt like I got the full experience. And so I'm really big about like today I'm pregnant and today I feel good about that, like you know, like kind of that mindset in those early pregnancy, like that's very much where I was, you know.

Speaker 2 50:36

Yeah, yeah. I feel heavily underqualified, as neither a mental health professional nor a woman, to give really sound advice on this.

Speaker 1 50:46

I also think that that's really common.

Speaker 2 50:49

Yeah.

Speaker 1 50:49

Like I think, even if you haven't experienced a loss, I think it's really common to feel anxious and I think people think once you hit a certain stage of pregnancy, that will go. But really what you learn is it just evolves.

Speaker 1 51:04

Um you hit that like safer zone, but it just it evolves like, well, is everything going to come okay? Back at the anatomy scan. And then from there it's like, okay, am I going to make it to viability? Okay, now that we're here, like, are we going to have a healthy delivery? Is everything going to go okay there? And then you, you are there holding your baby and for the rest of your life on earth, while you have children, you worry about them to some extent, like I'm not saying anxiety is normal.

Speaker 2 51:31

No.

Speaker 1 51:31

But I think there is this natural progression to having children that you worry about their safety and well-being. It's part of the experience and I think it's really great to voice it and talk about it, and therapy is important.

Speaker 2 51:47

Yeah.

Speaker 1 51:48

Let's do one more.

Speaker 2 51:49

Okay.

Speaker 1 51:50

I know I said already, but we've got a little more time.

Home Decor and Thrifting Plans

Speaker 2 51:53

Hi guys. I've been a lover of your content for years now and especially love the home decor and reno content you guys have put together the last few years. Would you be open to doing a few segments, breaking down each room with where you purchase slash thrifted things? I love the warmth your space gives, but there's not a great source when looking for specific things I've loved from your home. Could be a whole episode or just a segment of one room every few episodes. This could very well be a series on Tik TOK Instagram or whatever. I'm not sure what makes more sense from a creative standpoint, but would love an easier source to find things. Thanks in advance and also so sorry about your water main this week. Have a happy week.

Speaker 1 52:24

The water mains holding it guys.

Speaker 2 52:26

We still have water to our house.

Speaker 1 52:28

That's big have water to our house. That's big. Um, you can always DM me if there are specific things you're looking for. I the reason I have not done more. I also think on my shop my, sorry, I'm like jumping around I think on my shop, my, there is a portion that says my home that will have some of the pieces.

Speaker 1 52:45

Um, the reason I have not done more yet is so much of the house has not done how I want it to be and I'm hoping that this is the year that we not that everything's going to be perfect Like a home is always evolving and changing and growing and like that's part of living in it. But, uh, I've really struggled with the organization of our home and getting moved in in a way that feels really comfortable and peaceful, and I actually have a dear friend who's really into feng shui and organization and design and she is incredible uh, who's going to be helping me here in the next couple of months, and so I'm really really hoping that that uh helps me get to a place that I feel really confident and comfortable, kind of showing you guys um the spaces and tagging everything. But if there's anything in particular you have a question about, please don't hesitate to DM me. A lot of our things are from CB2. We have quite a few. The big chair in my room is six penny.

Speaker 1 53:45

I feel, like that's a really popular ask and then beyond that a lot of stuff's hand-me-downs We've got random hand-me-downs.

Speaker 2 53:50

We've got random hand-me-downs. We've got some Thuma stuff in the house.

Speaker 1 53:54

Yeah.

Speaker 2 53:55

We have some Ikea.

Speaker 1 53:57

We have some Lulu in Georgia.

Speaker 2 53:58

Yep, we really run the gambit.

Speaker 1 54:01

I really want to replace all of these curtains, like I love the green and I feel good about the green and we did the less expensive green curtains when we moved in because I wanted to know if I liked the green before I invested thousands of dollars into drapes.

Speaker 2 54:16

Yeah, and the curtain tracks were an experiment as well.

Speaker 1 54:19

Yeah, I don't know how I feel about those, so to this day I really don't. I don't mind the act of a track. I don't like how ours operate.

Speaker 2 54:29

Ooh the operation of them.

Speaker 1 54:31

Oh, maybe operation isn't the right word. I don't feel like the curtains hang well from them.

Speaker 2 54:35

Like it looks sloppy. Yeah, that's a drapery hook issue.

Speaker 1 54:39

And Matt continued to say that he would fix it, and he's never looked back.

Speaker 2 54:43

Well, I'm big into saying I'll fix things. That's kind of a philosophy mindset of mine.

Speaker 1 54:47

Well, anyway, I really want to do velvet curtains in here, that's like what I've wanted to do for a long time it's gonna be like a theater green like emerald. Not emerald, I guess, but like a dark green, forest green yeah, I can see it. I can see it I want it to be dark and cozy and then white bedding, I think okay anyway.

Speaker 1 55:07

That's why, but I will absolutely work to get more of that out as I feel like things are a little more complete. And please, please, please, don't hesitate to DM me about literally anything. I'm happy to provide. Most things I can provide links for or like where we thrifted it. Honestly, more of my stuff that is secondhand is from family secondhand is from family secondhand.

Speaker 2 55:33

Yeah, yeah, I'm trying to think.

Speaker 1 55:40

I don't feel like we have a ton of big thrifted stuff, do we?

Speaker 2 55:44

Yeah, oh, it's mainly like decor.

Speaker 1 55:46

No, not anything really. Yeah, it's mostly decor.

Speaker 2 55:48

Yeah.

Speaker 1 55:48

I agree with that.

Speaker 2 55:49

Yeah.

Speaker 1 55:50

We don't have very many big thrifted pieces.

Speaker 2 55:56

We have a lot of. I was thinking when you said that, I was like we have a lot of big hand-me-down.

Speaker 1 55:59

Yes, yeah we have some family pieces. Our bed frame is a. It's not vintage like it's, it's just a hand-me-down from matt's parents.

Speaker 2 56:06

I don't think anyone's wanting like a lot of links to that.

Speaker 1 56:08

Oh, all the time, really, all the People are like, where's your bed from?

Speaker 2 56:12

And I'm like Blowing my mind. You can't see it.

Speaker 1 56:16

Is that the point? I wonder if that's why people ask yeah, I bet you could find something very comparable.

Speaker 2 56:21

Maybe you have People like that. It still has the low profile. Oh, it's't like slide back, I guess, yeah.

Speaker 1 56:33

Functionally. I want a like. I have a very different vision. Very different aspirations for a bed in here, but well, I really I want a four poster and Matt doesn't.

Speaker 2 56:43

So I'm not getting it. I don't want.

Speaker 1 56:47

I love a four poster bed, but that's where Matt and I differ, so I'm not getting one.

Speaker 2 56:51

Four poster. That doesn't necessitate like a canopy right, Like it doesn't have to have the top. You want a canopy?

Speaker 1 56:57

I want a canopy, you want a canopy bed, but I have looked at four posters that I like too, but it's not your thing.

Speaker 2 57:02

I'm not like out entirely on just the posts, but I don't like the canopy style. Well, I've been looking more at like sled, bed like a sled style, okay, yeah.

Speaker 1 57:12

Because that kind of gives the structure of having something at both, like all, you know what I mean, sure. But, not, I don't know.

Speaker 2 57:20

Sure.

Speaker 1 57:21

It's expensive, though.

Speaker 2 57:22

It is expensive. I say that about everything I'm like always shocked.

Speaker 1 57:24

I'm like things cost money.

Speaker 2 57:26

Money.

Speaker 1 57:26

That's crazy it um, but anyway yeah I'll work on that I can definitely work on that we'll give it a shot for sure, and we definitely have some plans for more home content content moving forward. We're making over the primary patio um the water main link. The water main leak really messed with our plans for the. Yeah, we had some scheduled outdoor activities and now it's so hot, hot AF yeah. Yeah, so anyway.

Speaker 2 57:55

It's in the mid to upper 90s Fahrenheit with a lot of humidity, so it's not the funnest.

Speaker 1 58:03

No, definitely not. On that note, we love you guys. Talk soon.

Speaker 2 58:07

Bye.

Speaker 1 58:08

Have a great week.